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The Game

29 June, 2003 9:39 PM

'I'm 80 years of age - I grew up in this church. I went to Sunday School here, then Youth Group. I was baptised here and became a youth group leader. I've led worship, I've given testimonies, I've led bible studies and I've even preached. I've held virtually every position you can hold in this church except from that of 'pastor' including elder, secretary and treasurer.

I know a lot about God - but tonight I realised that I don't really know God. For all these years I've 'played the game' - I've looked the part. But I'm a fake, I'm a hypocrite and I don't really understand what people talk about when they talk about how they connect with God. I've wasted so much of my life in pretending that I have it all worked out, I've been too proud to tell anyone that I don't really know God.'

Four yeas ago I was speaking at a youth service in a church in Adelaide about Masks. I had challenged the young people to think about the masks that they wear and to be real with one another, themselves and with God. At the end of the service an older gentleman waited for me and shared the above with me. I've never been able to forget his words and the tears in his old shiny eyes as he shared for the first time in his life how he wanted to 'be real' and 'know God'.



Hi, Darren...

I just wanted to ask. In your post "The Game", the older gentleman says:
I've wasted so much of my life in pretending that I have it all worked out, I've been too proud to tell anyone that I do really know God.'

Is that "do know God" or "don't know God"?

(I tried e-mailing this, with the "contact" information above... but I got a delivery failure. Sorry!)

Just wondering

Blessings and peace - Richard

Richard » 29 June, 2003 10:07 PM

Ta Richard

Darren » 29 June, 2003 10:26 PM

Wow! That would be an eye opener.

jake » 30 June, 2003 2:26 PM


A large majority of Australian men spend their time pretending. Pretending that they are happy, pretending that their work is fulfilling, pretending that their life has meaning. Australian men are taught to be emotional cripples. Why would this not affect their spirituality.

This man has wasted a good deal of his life pretending and the tragedy is that in a normal congregation, (no slight on your congregation gender make up intended) his story would be the norm not the exception amongst the men.

chris » 30 June, 2003 2:50 PM

Wow. How sad to live 80 years and just be realizing that. And how frightening, because I have to ask myself whether or not, in all honesty, I can say I'm better off than him? Am I just too proud to admit that I don't "really know" God either? Oh Lord have mercy...may He not let us live eighty years before we reach such humbling...

Jonathan » 1 July, 2003 12:04 AM

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